I found this list, ‘Seven Things We Must Tell Our Daughters’, on the website I referenced below. I have added the word ‘Love’ where the original author used the word ‘God’ because when I see the words, “in the image of God”, I can’t help but think of an old man in white robes. Instead, I replace the word “God” with “Love” and my body automatically relaxes and I exhale because I remember that Love is really all there is. That is what I hope my daughter ultimately learns from me.
Even though this list is written for daughters the same ideas hold true for our sons.
Seven Things We Must Tell Our Daughters:
(reposted from wearethatfamily.com)
- You are Valuable:: She needs to know she is important and so valued that you will protect her with rules and boundaries because you love her. There is safety and comfort within those restrictions, even when she pushes against them.
- Your Worth Isn’t Based on Your Appearance:: She needs to be told she is beautiful–not because she’s wearing a sassy outfit or new lipgloss–her worth is not found in her appearance, the opinions of others or herself. She is beautiful because she was created in the image of God (image of Love).
- You Don’t Need a Guy:: She needs to hear starting at a young age (but it’s never too late to start telling her). She needs to be told a boy doesn’t complete her, God does. That’s right, Love completes her – this is a great opportunity to make the distinction between romantic love and the power of Love.
- You Are Amazing:: Our daughters need to hear we are proud of them. She is enough. Tell her out of all the girls in the world, you’d always choose her. Create an atmosphere where she is loved, just like she is.
- You Don’t Have to Believe What You Hear:: She needs to hear your affirming voice in her head. Because there will be mean girls in her life, peers with pressure and adults in her world who will let her down and have low expectations of her. She needs to hear the opposite at home, your voice will be the voice of Love.
- You Have Me:: No matter what happens in life, the ups and downs that will come her way, the losses and gains, our daughters must know we are there for them. She needs to know she can talk to you about anything. Anytime. That is how she will learn the power of Love.
- You Can Change the World:: She needs to know she can dream big and can accomplish whatever she wishes. She can do so with God by her side (with Love by her side) and she doesn’t need a boy or society to make it happen. She can be anything she wants to be with your help. Stand by her, with her and watch her fly.
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Si, this is true.
May I very respectfully say, I understand you changing the word “God” for “Love”…I always thought of the same…then I read in the New Testament when Jesus ascends after His crucifixion; the angel standing there states, this “same man” in the same way He ascended, He will come again…It’s the words “this same man”- so I saw a new picture- yes, Jesus, but new- a 33 year old man will return..33, in the prime of male life…I just liked that…so I thought I would share…thank you for letting me! I love your blog!!
Thank you so much. I am open to new ways of seeing what has always been taught about Christianity and I always love what you have to say in your blog. I really appreciate your sharing this information.
oh I love this…this is a great reminder for me too. We hear all day long how we are not enough, we need more money, more sex appeal, a man, more more more….but thats not true…our needs are all met and we are enough…we have enough money (the more you have the more you spend), beauty is fleeting, real beauty is on the inside…love. we are smart enough, we are smart enough to function in this world!~ I hope your sweet
daughter learns these things from me as well. I always tell her, that no matter what, not matter what she says or does my love for her will never change.period. Because of the things you and her daddy are teaching her, she is growing into a beauful girl on the inside as well as on the outside. Way to go momma!!!
Thank you Norah! Your words mean so much to me and so much to our sweet girl, Ruby.